Don’t Blindly Do What People Say. Experiment and Discover If It Fits and Works for YOU.

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Taking someone’s advice as Gospel truth and believing it at face value has to be the dumbest thing anyone can do.

I truly mean that.

As human beings we are all different creatures. Yes, we are creatures of habit, we are animals and have the same DNA makeup.

But when it comes to what works for each of us, it can be totally different.

What I mean by that is this – if someone told you, “oh hey, skydiving healed my back pain.” Would you blindly believe them and just go on believing that “skydiving” is what healed their back pain?

I hope not. 

I see and hear of far too many well intentioned people these days following the fake “Gooroos”, pundits and influencers. Young and old alike. It makes no difference.

Too many people following others like sheep and doing exactly what they say without questioning why they are doing it, what the purpose is or if it even works for THEM in the first place.

Wow, what a freakin revelation. Genius right?

No, it’s called freakin common sense. But you know the old adage, “you’ll come to find common sense is not so common.”

Please STOP doing this. Stop following “Group Think” and herd mentality. 

You’re a human being, an apex predator and one of the most intelligent, if not the most intelligent creatures on Earth with an ability to use logical reasoning, build things, and don’t simply react on immediate animal impulses. 

Instead, you should EXPERIMENT for yourself. Try what these so called “experts” are spouting. Act as if you are a scientist in a lab. 

What is a scientist anyway?

A Scientist is someone who comes up with a hypothesis and conducts experiments to prove or disprove his or her hypothesis.

The precise definition of a scientist is a person learned in science and especially natural science: a scientific investigator.

An INVESTIGATOR.

Now, what is an investigator?

A person whose job is to examine a crime, problem, statement, etc. in order to discover the truth.

So, experiment, investigate and TRY their teachings or prescriptions for yourself.

Many times you’ll come to find that a lot of what they teach you will turn out to be utter bullshit and does not work. Or what they teach is super slimy and does not align with your values and morals.

For example, in my own life, I’ve studied and learned from many so called “Gurus” in business and with online marketing. I’ve bought many courses and I’ve come to find that a lot of what these people are teaching simply do not work like they say or they sort of work but their methods are extremely shady and do not align with me and my personal values, goals and morals.

Interestingly, there have also been many courses or methods that do work, but they just do not match or jive with who I am as a person and what I stand for.

Even further, there are online training programs that promise to help you “dunk” a basketball but really all they do is help you get quicker. I’ve purchased such a program with a recurring, monthly charge and it did not help me dunk again. Period. Wasted almost a year.

But, I did get quicker, faster, stronger and more well versed in bio mechanics but once again, it did not help me achieve my goal of dunking again.

Sometimes you’re not meant to achieve a goal or sometimes it just doesn’t happen for whatever reason.

That is OKAY.

And may lead you into something greater. The learnings you gather and of who you truly are is what matters.

Also, you don’t have to act like someone or think having their style or personality is the ONLY style or way to achieve something. You know that saying, “there’s a million ways to skin a cat.”

One of the biggest ones is not to blindly follow how someone else lives and believe that it is the only way to live. It’s THEIR life and YOU have your life. So live it and make it how you want. Again, try out things that personally fit you.

As a result, I struggled for many years trying to find “success”, but more importantly I struggled for many years attempting to discover a methodology or form of work that would allow my creativity to flow out of me and allow me to truly express myself in the most authentic way possible.

Thanks to my experiences, trials, tribulations and failures I learned what I did NOT want to do and it led me to meditation and really getting in touch with who I am deep down inside.

I was called on a journey of self exploration, self discovery and through much deep thought and self reflection and introspection I have been able to discover what truly works for me.

Yes, me. Me as a unique, individual with many passions, interests, values, perspectives and desires to affect massive positive change and impact on the world through my creative expressions, my abilities and my genius within.

It’s taken many failures and a few successes along the way for me to realize this.

My hope is that you may not have to suffer as much or as long as I have and can begin to meditate on and reflect deeply by looking deeply within yourself of: 

  • Who are you?
  • What truly makes you come alive?
  • What do you feel so compelled to do?
  • What do you possess in yourself that no other human being possesses? PleaseI I beg you, share that with us all.
  • How do you learn and in what way? Meaning, what is the most optimal way for you to learn? Is that visually, auditory, kinesthetic or all three?
  • What are your personal values, your morals, your ethics, way of being, way of living?
  • What are your goals, dreams, ambitions?

And lastly, what is it that if you were on your death bed, you wished you would have done or achieved?

Do THAT. Now.

In closing, remember to please not take what someone else tells you what works for them as fact and finite.

Nothing is finite. You are an infinite being.

You are powerful beyond measure. You must try and throw things on the wall to see what sticks.

However, no one else can do this for you. This is a personal journey and one of the most important journeys for you as this is your life and your work takes a huge part of your life.

Perhaps you agree with me, perhaps you don’t.

I really don’t care, at all. It doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you experiment and try many things to find something or things that unleashes your inner genius into the world. Now that my friend is what matters.

I wish you love, strength, and all the good fortune on your journey.

Stay blessed.

Sonam